Let us leave aside, permanently, the possibility that you can do something that everybody will agree on.
Who are you trying to impress? Who are you afraid of? When you say, “they” say, who is the formless, nameless “they” referring to?
Doctors? Experts? Your parents or your teachers? The other parents at your kids’ school? Rich people? Good people?
It is certainly not “Everybody.”
“Everybody” currently cannot agree that the world is a sphere. So let us leave aside, permanently, the possibility that you can do something that everybody will agree on.
It’s not that there aren’t people out there waiting to judge us. It’s not that we don’t have a pretty good idea of what (some of them) think. It’s that there is no uniform, monolithic “They” who have absolute knowledge and authority. We have, over our years, listened to a whole bunch of different people who do not agree with one another about what constitutes a good life.
Then we try to meet all their expectations simultaneously…
Here’s a hint: you can’t. Especially since some of the expectations are that you will never age, and you will always be the best at everything you set your hands to. You will be both perfectly compliant and bold. You will be exceptional and normal at the same time.
For more on this question, check out my recent FB Live video on this topic.
https://www.facebook.com/seonaid.teaches/videos/371520699923931/
I’m interested to hear how you work with the multiple demands on your energies. Which “they” is loudest in your head, and what do you do to deal with it?