Breathe First, Then Act

This week’s Tuesday Tuneup addresses the question of motivation and difficult emotions. I have heard a lot of people say essentially: their anger is justified, that letting it go lets the people they are angry at off the hook, and (besides all that), if they didn’t have these difficult emotions, they wouldn’t take any action at all.

Here’s my take on it:

Fear and anger, even if they motivate us, are *terrible* at telling us what we might do in response.

Even if “everything is ruined forever,” taking a deep breath and calming down before acting still benefits us. (The quote is from the voices in my head.)